Can’t help this post. I’m obsessed with all things voice. Listen to yourself – if you even suspect you might be a bit nasal – you will be! If you don’t care, I certainly don’t, but if you do care, then you can stop being nasal. Here is how to check if you are. Make a long, sustained, “eeeeeeeeeee” sound on any note that is comfortable and while you are doing that, squeeze and release both of your nostrils. If you sound like a siren, then you are nasal. Just thought I’d mention it.
It seems strange but there is an especially nice freedom/focus at being able to look at you with a sustained intimacy that isn’t threatening. My voice work operates just as well which has amazed me. What’s more, it’s a nice challenge for me as an educator because I have to be super clear in my instructions to you.
Here’s an exercise for you The Wallow in Vibrations Experience…….. 1) Hum on a a long, indulgent “m” sound with your lips gently closed. Feel where the vibrations fall. (You might like to touch your face lightly with your finger tips to increase the tactile nature of the sounds.) 2)Then….. without opening or moving your lips, allow your lower jaw bone to drop just a little inside your mouth. 3)Keep humming and you will feel the vibrations more intensely. 4) Release your belly for breath to replace whenever you need to and 4)enjoy the sensation.
Well, I know the secret for me. Decades and decades of coaching people to achieve their full human potential have distilled into this knowledge. The voices that make me want to listen, the voices that make me fall in love with them, are those who have been trained to speak with a thrilling but unobtrusive balance of vowels and consonants. In a wide generalized statement I submit that Vowels play music to our listeners’ ears, while the consonants engage their intellect. Together they communicate our human presence. Listen to voices this week – some people are speak with lots of oompah-oompah vowels heavy noises. Others lean into speaking with very crisp and over-emphatic consonants. What is your balance?
If you don’t like your voice, then do something about it. Your voice will be yearning to be free and expressive. People who have to listen to you also will be yearning for you to sound “better”. It’s not hard. I’ve spent a life-time doing this work and while it is challenging, it’s very pleasant to do. BTW, someone said they didn’t come to me because I look so fierce in my website image. Well, I am fierce but I’m very friendly to my clients. Yawn, stretch the throat, yawn again. Keep your throat easy. Dianne
I wanted to let you know that as a common theme for pretty much all of the students, they said that your sessions with them really helped them break through their barriers. They said your class was challenging but also the most rewarding and that they are all so grateful to you for pushing them and helping them let go of their insecurities, reach new emotional plateaus, and find their voice. (Nicola Scott from The Factory, Helensvale)
Before I speak, I must ask myself three questions:
1. Is it true?
2. Is it necessary?
3. Is it kind?
I keep forgetting however and have to begin again over and over.
I wanted to let you know that ……………. the students, they said that your sessions with them really helped them break through their barriers. They said your classes were challenging but also the most rewarding and that they are all so grateful to you for pushing them and helping them let go of their insecurities, reach new emotional plateaus, and find their voice.
Both presentations went extremely well however, and I won a prize for best presentation by an Honours student. Thanks very much for your help, your guidance was much appreciated. B.M. Faculty of Business. University of Queensland
I feel like I have entered a world I didn’t even know existed. It’s fascinating and I can’t wait to find out what is possible.
Linda Brewson (Manager)