What is the V Voice secret? Flight or Flight or Rest and Digest ?
Your Vagal system sends messages to your brain. If your Vagal nerve transmits a message that you are under threat, you will feel performance anxiety: the fight or flight or freeze response.
Your diaphragm is the big breathing muscle that is hooked into this Vagal system. The way to send the message to rest and digest (and therefore, decreasing anxiety), is to allow your diaphragm to move the way it wants to move. It wants to move downwards towards your pelvic floor. Diaphragmatic breathing sends the right message. The brain believes what the body tells it is true!
Test: Place your hand on your collar bone. If it moves when you breathe, you are breathing shallowly and you run the risk of sending the fight or flight spark to your brain.
I love this system – it means you can decide how you want your voice to be – connected and real or tense and forced.
Personal Trainers – you are opening a new world for me. I’m an age where I think I have the field of study pretty well covered and yet, here I am finding a new kind of language to use : Gym talk. Love it. New lexicon for this voice coach. I feel at the bottom of another mountain. So I am beginning another hike upwards. It’s fun – freeing the voice from such fabulous bodies – bodies which already, can isolate, find alignment easily, understand bones and muscle energies. The challenge is to find the balance between support and push and release and communicate: to work from the inside out for a voice class.
Can’t help this post. I’m obsessed with all things voice. Listen to yourself – if you even suspect you might be a bit nasal – you will be! If you don’t care, I certainly don’t, but if you do care, then you can stop being nasal. Here is how to check if you are. Make a long, sustained, “eeeeeeeeeee” sound on any note that is comfortable and while you are doing that, squeeze and release both of your nostrils. If you sound like a siren, then you are nasal. Just thought I’d mention it.
It seems strange but there is an especially nice freedom/focus at being able to look at you with a sustained intimacy that isn’t threatening. My voice work operates just as well which has amazed me. What’s more, it’s a nice challenge for me as an educator because I have to be super clear in my instructions to you.
Here’s an exercise for you The Wallow in Vibrations Experience…….. 1) Hum on a a long, indulgent “m” sound with your lips gently closed. Feel where the vibrations fall. (You might like to touch your face lightly with your finger tips to increase the tactile nature of the sounds.) 2)Then….. without opening or moving your lips, allow your lower jaw bone to drop just a little inside your mouth. 3)Keep humming and you will feel the vibrations more intensely. 4) Release your belly for breath to replace whenever you need to and 4)enjoy the sensation.
Well, I know the secret for me. Decades and decades of coaching people to achieve their full human potential have distilled into this knowledge. The voices that make me want to listen, the voices that make me fall in love with them, are those who have been trained to speak with a thrilling but unobtrusive balance of vowels and consonants. In a wide generalized statement I submit that Vowels play music to our listeners’ ears, while the consonants engage their intellect. Together they communicate our human presence. Listen to voices this week – some people are speak with lots of oompah-oompah vowels heavy noises. Others lean into speaking with very crisp and over-emphatic consonants. What is your balance?
If you don’t like your voice, then do something about it. Your voice will be yearning to be free and expressive. People who have to listen to you also will be yearning for you to sound “better”. It’s not hard. I’ve spent a life-time doing this work and while it is challenging, it’s very pleasant to do. BTW, someone said they didn’t come to me because I look so fierce in my website image. Well, I am fierce but I’m very friendly to my clients. Yawn, stretch the throat, yawn again. Keep your throat easy. Dianne
I wanted to let you know that as a common theme for pretty much all of the students, they said that your sessions with them really helped them break through their barriers. They said your class was challenging but also the most rewarding and that they are all so grateful to you for pushing them and helping them let go of their insecurities, reach new emotional plateaus, and find their voice. (Nicola Scott from The Factory, Helensvale)
Before I speak, I must ask myself three questions:
1. Is it true?
2. Is it necessary?
3. Is it kind?
I keep forgetting however and have to begin again over and over.
I wanted to let you know that ……………. the students, they said that your sessions with them really helped them break through their barriers. They said your classes were challenging but also the most rewarding and that they are all so grateful to you for pushing them and helping them let go of their insecurities, reach new emotional plateaus, and find their voice.
Both presentations went extremely well however, and I won a prize for best presentation by an Honours student. Thanks very much for your help, your guidance was much appreciated. B.M. Faculty of Business. University of Queensland